20 First Dates - Part Five

Well, hello there. It's been a while. Since the last few posts, I've taken the leap into becoming a full time member of the Real Beauty Real Women family, and it's been an amazing journey and shifted my focus for a time. Now I'm back!

There is so much to write about the journey of the 20 First Dates, and I have neglected to put it on paper. I want to be deliberate, and meditative. There will be multiple posts in the ensuing weeks focusing on relationship books, what I actually learned on the dates, nicknames, what a woman really wants (it's pretty simple), other's experiences going on the 20 First Date Challenge (yes, it's now a thing), and much more. In the meantime, here's something I've learned about myself from using the same tools I recently posted about on Facebook. Watch out! (j/k)

I love playlists and have one for about every occasion. Name a type of cuisine, and I likely have a playlist created around music that corresponds for one of my favorite activities, the dinner party. I've put together a playlist of songs that remind me of the journey of the 20 first dates, and this Robin Schulz song is one of them. At the end of the day, it's what we really want. Or at least the romantics among us.

"I wanna grow old with you Buy an RV and just travel I wanna have kids and a house, and some stress I can't handle I want a dog we can chase through the park on a Sunday Then make us a dinner for two Might be microwave entrees"

How do you pre-screen before you end up going on dates? This was a tongue in cheek question I posited on my Facebook page recently. It started something like: "Besides astrology and Love Languages, what "tools" do you use to vet dates?" What came back were very deep serious answers. And while the post was meant to be lighthearted and bring back lighthearted answers, it became very clear that LOVE is a VERY SERIOUS ISSUE. I was even taken to task for using astrology as a vetting tool by one friend. However...

Whether or not you believe in astrology, I am a Sagittarius, also known as the zodiac's optimists. And it fits me to a tee.

My friends call me the "eternal love optimist" - I constantly look through a lens of evaluating if someone would fit into my life and what that would look like, and sometimes that has meant making justifications for that person. I even do this to people I know I won't really end up dating.