Camilla Constance is an Empowering Libido Coach Who is Changing the Sexual Narrative

Camilla Constance, a former primary school teacher, has completely turned her life around in an unexpected way. After a deep depression, Camilla rediscovered sex and being in touch with her own body. This journey was a life changing experience for her, and now she has vowed to help other women and men rediscover this energy and life. As a libido coach, her mission is to change the sexual narrative and reconnect people to love and pleasure in their own bodies. When we begin to see sex in a wider context, we begin to understand just how important it is for a happy, healthy, and balanced life.

Tell us about what you do and what your why is.

I am a libido coach and I work mainly with women, but not exclusively. I do it because midway through my life, when I went through my depression, I dealt with it by going to the doctor, getting antidepressants, doing all of the traditional things. Then, some things miraculously happened for me and I rediscovered sex and it completely changed my life. Years later, I became familiar with the term vaginal depression which is when we are not sexually activated, we get very shut down, and we don’t have the surge of orgasmic energy going through us. Our bodies actually get fundamentally depressed and it is a physical depression. Overcoming that and helping others overcome that became my mission and my why. When I was really alive and I rediscovered my sexuality, I went to the doctor for something very routine. I sat in the office fizzing with life and energy. I looked around the room at women my age or younger, who all looked so grey and miserable and sick. I thought to myself “they need this touch, I wish I could go around and wave a magic wand and give it to them and bring them back to life.” To me, that is why I work for libido. Libido is desire. It is the life surging through us. It is fundamental to what I want to bring back to women, to the planet, to women’s families, to women’s partners and children. We need this aliveness in our bodies.

There are two roots for any human to experience sexual energy. Yes, there is sex with a partner, but there is also sex on our own. I don’t work with two people, I work with individuals, and I help them cultivate it within themselves, to kind of bring themselves back to life. They can then take this back to their partners if they’re in partnership. But, women do not need to be in a relationship to have a well fed sexuality. They can be filled with sexual aliveness through self pleasure work. There is a big step between the kind of unconscious habits that you don’t feel comfortable doing or don’t particularly enjoy, I guess unconscious masturbation, compared to the kind of conscious work you can do with your body and really learn to move energy around your body to nourish and sustain life. It’s a different way of viewing sexuality. And that is why I work.

How do your clients find you and how do you get past some of the preconceived notions or barriers that people can put up?